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Oflate, I received an e-mail from my colleague which had some quotes related to marriage. As you expect all quotes were funny lines about marriage. I tried to scrutinze them a bit, after all, all the quotes, adages etc, evolve from experiences. So I believe they carry some information to think about and due to which my blog has taken its birth. Generally we receive these kind of mails very often, apparently by influence of these kind of mails and seeing girls hopping around hunks in the crappy bollywood, we tend to think "wedding ring as a miniature handcuff". Don't know how far it is true, Is marriage so painful? Is it so powerful to give you a pneumatic jolt? Are there no upsides in married life? Well you may ask me to catch hold of a married guy and ask these questions. Hold on then, am a married person.
I just want to share the experience of my marriage and just want you to know the aftermath of my marriage...ofcourse not everthing. Don't think I am newly married and am jotting this down in mere excitement, Its been two and a half years I am married.Before actually going to what I want to say let me tell you what I know about bachelor days. Its a life as plain as the nose on your face. Get up late in the morning, brush the teeth at the rate of 100rpm, take a quick bath at lightning speed, put the life guard, I mean helmet and drive your untidy bike as you wish, reach the office. You dont even bother to have breakfast though you know the importance of breakfast. In office, the first and foremost thing is to open your outlook/lotus notes to see the mails. Somehow I feel checking the mails at the start of the day is such an exciting thing. Starting with a drink in the morning, later in the day fixing those bugs which bug your manager in his dreams, having frequent coffee breaks,browsing some websites which adds no value neither to your career nor to your personal life. Gossiping about others.etc. etc.... If you are working for a korean/japanese company I dont think you would be knowing how your city looks in twilight. Burning the midnight oil is the only thing you would be knowing.You get addicted to that late night slogging in such a way that, one day if you go home early around six or seven o clock, 'Man', you feel you have done a damn serious mistake. I have experienced it personally :(.
After long hours of stay at office, at home, chat with friends about all junk things in the world, and later when your stomach pings for its fuel, worry starts to choose the restorant for dinner since you would be bored going to same old restorants in your locality. You deploy all the analytical skills you have, to zero in on a restorant. I dont think we do that much analysis while fixing our bugs. After dinner what else a sleep. After all "we know a good laugh and a long sleep are the best cures in the doctor's book."At the end of the month, feeling of becoming 'fat cat' is common after seeing the lumpsum deposited to your account. All in all its just a life with not many goals and serious responsibilities.

I got married when I was 23 years old (Hey folk, dont call it as child marriage huh :)), yes it was quite unexpected thing to happen when you are not mentally prepared for such a big event. Bygones be Bygones, whatever happens is for good. When my FIL (father-in-law) came to know that his daughter is going out with me on the sly, 'man' his adrenaline rushed to every parts of his body I guess,,, It took just around a month for him to speak to my parents, fix the dates of our wedding and to make all arrangements. I was landed from Korea just few days back of my marriage. You can imagine my body condition that time, Staying three months there made me to look like one starved prisoner. Moreover my frame is on leaner side, so comments like " guy looks immatured to get married", "He can not take responsibilty of a famiily" etc , were common from my wife's relatives. There was hell lot of resistance from my relatives too for my wedding. It was a shock to them. None of my relatives encouraged me, helped me and my family in making arragements and other stuffs. With all these worries in mind I had to go through that horrible and hectic day of my life, My wedding ceremony. I did not bother anything about my dress, how I look etc..on that day. I was just worried, worried..But one thing positive, If I have learnt to fake a smile today then thanks to my wedding day which laid the foundation for this.

Well guys if you are thinking my married life is also as bad as my marriage day then you are totally wrong. My life took its own turns after my marrige. First and foremost thing is I got a partner more than a best friend to share each and every thing of my life. Personally I believe in bloodrelationship more than a friendship. Ofcourse blood is thicker than water. You dont need any great sagacity in understanding friendships and blood relatioships. But this husband-wife relationship defintely has the capacity to generate ripples in mind if we sit to think a little bit about it. Anyway I am still in a dilemma to decide the quadrant of this husband-wife relationship.
Coming to the upsides of wedding, you have a soul at all time to support your decisions, or review your decisions. you can always discuss each and everything with your better half and proceed. During decision making conflicts are common but a healthy dose of conflict is OK..So decision making becomes simple after marrriage.
If your wife is also working then definitely that would give rock-solid boost to your financial security. By collaging both the incomes,you can plan to meet your financial goals. One can always have the luxury of pursuing higher studies or whatever if one is working at the other end.
Small things really does matter, you can get better tax breaks. you look more responsible to lenders/creditors when you are applying for loans etc..Coming to the comfort at home, you can have nice breakfast, dinner and if you are lucky u can get the lunch box packed for you. Who prepares the food is not the question, if both are working then helping each other is good. Supporting each other whenever required is an important factor in relationship. You feel that soberness at home, seeing your wife gelling so well within your family. There are certain things she can do better than you like taking care of your parents, giving gyan to ur brother/sister if they are not in right track. I feel these things are more effectively done by your wife than you. There was a recent incident happened in my life when I was in china. Here in banagalore my wife was alone, there was an unexpected upset with my mom's health. Mom got admitted to hospital, that time my wife had to stay in hospital for almost 3-4 days. At that time my wife took the charge of mine and did all the required procedures. There can be numerous events like this where you two can compliment each other.
At times there are always issues around in-laws, children etc. Solving the problems doesn't really matter. What's crucial is keeping things positive. You have to accept the other person's perspective, have an appropriate discussion without getting critical or blaming. Sometimes you may feel your partner is not meeting all your expectations. you may get upset. This is very common I feel. There is a funny quirk in human nature that we often focus on the tiny detail that is annoying. When a person has a broken tooth, the tongue will not leave it alone. If the car has a dent, it can become the only thing we see. That tendency may be useful when we are dealing with things that can and should be fixed, but many small dents should merely be ignored. They are a part of the traffic of our life.
The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together. Love your partner when he/she least deserves it, because that's when he/she really needs it.Love is blind, but marriage restores its sight. There are two ways this quote can be perceived. I hope you can decide yourself how you are going to perceive it.
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